Dealing with a Breakup: Moving On After a Fatal Crash (Part 1)

In one of my blogs here, I offered the ladies some men-repelling tips that will surely make the males raise the flag and say, “Guess what? I had enough. We’re through!”

Now ladies, listen, if you got what you wanted and finally succeeded in driving the bloke away—and then realized later on that it is not what you really wanted to happen—read on and learn how you can gather your heart’s broken pieces together and move on with life after the bomb was dropped.

Before we get to that part, though, make sure to have an honest conversation with your guy. Talk to him. Admit your mistake and say that you are sorry. Of course, be prepared to hear him out too for he will surely have a lot of things to say, including those things that hurt. But keep your composure anyway, stretch your patience, and zip your mouth. Listen to him and try to understand what he is going through.

Depending on how your conversation went and how badly or little he was affected by the breakup, expect one of the following to happen:

• He’ll accept the apology and admit that he doesn’t want the relationship to go to waste.

• He’ll ask you to give him some time off, alone, to clear his mind and make sense of everything that happened.

• He’ll tell you that it is really over and that he doesn’t want to get back with you ever again.

If everything turned out fine, then good! However, if he stood firm about the breakup, then respect his decision and graciously accept that there is no “us” anymore. At all cost, never beg or cry in front of him. Crying and begging doesn’t work. They’ll only make you appear needy and clingy, which is no attractive for a lady at all.

"If you can't save the relationship, at least save your pride."

Now, back to the part of “recovering after your heart’s fatal crash,” you can take the healing process step-by-step, one-day-at-a-time, or at whatever pace you prefer. The most important thing is, you keep the following goals in mind and make them your reason for waking up every day:

Move on
Make my life better
And be a better person

Of course, to be able to achieve all these goals, there are some steps that you need to take. And I must admit—they are not all that easy. We’re gonna have a lengthy discussion about these moving-on-after-a-break-up tips, so I have chosen to dedicate the second part of this blog solely for them. So, just keep posted, OK. ^_^